Vernede's home, The Paper Mill in Standon |
Robert E. Vernède, “of the dark eyes and the unforgettable
smile,”* was a married man of thirty-nine, a published novelist, and an enthusiastic
gardener when he enlisted with the British army. Between November of 1915 and September of
1916, he served in some of the most dangerous locations on the Western Front, in the Ypres Salient and at the Somme. He was injured at the Somme in September, sent home to recover, and returned to the Western Front in January of 1917.
A friend of the writer GK Chesterton (they had attended
school together), Vernède wrote hundreds of letters home. These letters
reveal him as an officer who cared deeply about his men, a writer with a dry
wit and self-deprecating sense of humor, and a husband who was exceptionally
close to his wife, Caroline Howard Vernède.
To C.H.V
What shall I bring to you, wife of mine,
When I come back from the war?
A ribbon your dear brown hair to twine?
A shawl from a Berlin store?
Say, shall I choose you some Prussian hack
When the Uhlans** we overwhelm?
Shall I bring you a Potsdam goblet back
And the crest from a Prince's helm?
Little you'd care what I laid at your feet,
Ribbon or crest or shawl--
What if I bring you nothing, sweet,
Nor maybe come home at all?
Ah, but you'll know, Brave Heart, you'll know
Two things I'll have kept to send:
Mine honour for which you bade me go
And my love--my love to the end.
--Robert Ernest Vernède
At its start light-hearted and optimistic, the poem imagines not only a British victory, but a soldier’s homecoming as he brings gifts
and spoils of war. As the poem continues,
the soldier-husband’s gifts become increasingly extravagant and absurd. The list begins with a ribbon for his dear wife’s
hair, and then goes on to detail a shawl from Berlin (indicating that the
German capital city has been taken by the British), a horse from the Prussian
cavalry, a priceless crystal goblet crafted in Potsdam (where glassware was
fashioned for the Prussian royal household), and finally an elaborate gilded crest
from the helmet of the German crown prince himself.
Tender and whimsical, Vernède acknowledges that his wife
would little care what material gifts he brings her. But then the poem turns serious as the writer
imagines a wholly different and much more likely future: what if he never
returns home, but instead is killed in battle?
The final four lines are intended to reassure his wife, even as he
addresses her as “Brave Heart.” If her
husband is killed in battle, she can take comfort in knowing that his honour
and his love for her will remain long after his death.
We will probably never know if Carol Vernède found the poem amusing
or of comfort, but Robert Vernède did not return to their home and gardens in Standon,
Hertfordshire. In his last letter to his
wife, written on Easter Sunday of 1917, the day before he was killed, Robert Vernède closed with these lines: “I think it will be summer soon, and perhaps
the war will end this year and I shall see my Pretty One again.”
Remembering Vernède, his close friend F.G. Salter said, “He loved
life, with a solid, English love ; he loved his garden, his art, his friends ;
above all, he loved the wife who for all the years since their betrothal had
been the inspirer and encourager of everything he did, and who was so in this
decision also, and to the end. He very greatly desired to come back alive after
the war. But it seemed to him that such a desire was, for the present, simply
irrelevant."
Robert E. Vernede |
My paternal grandmum was to become a war widow herself. My dad was a 3-month baby when it happened (May 1918).
ReplyDeleteHer behaviour remained typically humble and taciturn any time we paid her visits while we were young.
I was 23 when she died (aged 95).
55 years of living alone without one's partner is a long time.
I distinctly remember 'Moetje' ('mummy', her loving nickname) and honour her memory.
Thanks for sharing a personal, intimate story of the way the war affected people, Chris.
DeleteCannot sleep now. This hurts me. I'm married and my wife is asleep on my arm as I write this.
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